I hope all of you had a happy holiday season and that your 2017 is off to a great start! 2016 was a great year for our family with the addition of our sweet boy, Davis. I don’t know if it was the best year for politics or other happenings in the world, but we were so blessed to become a family of five. Between my pregnancy and my delivery, 2016 seemed to go by in a flash.
Our holiday season was probably not the best one our family has had. Both of my in-laws came down with terrible respiratory colds and we didn’t spend Christmas Eve at their house as planned. We still have yet to see my MIL as she is still sick and home in bed. My Mom has had to stay in town for an extra two weeks so far to help us with our children and we are continuing to pray that my MIL will be healthy soon and back to helping us out as well as feeling good. Since my in-laws were both sick, my husband’s brothers came down to our place on Christmas Eve and we went out for Chinese food (like everyone else apparently). We went to a small Chinese place near our house and it took over two hours to have dinner, let’s just say it wasn’t the most enjoyable two hours when you have two toddlers and a newborn to appease. Plus, since the restaurant is so small, we had to split up and we didn’t even get to sit with my parents and brother/sister in laws.
We also had a stomach bug go through our house, although we didn’t know it was a stomach bug at first. We made cut out cookies the Thursday before Christmas, the girls had a lot of fun and each got to eat a large cookie with frosting on top. The next morning we discovered Jemma had gotten sick all over in her crib, but chalked it up to too much sugar. She was a little lethargic and quiet, but didn’t have any more episodes. Fast forward to the day after Christmas and the bug hit Zoe and we were up all night with her getting sick, she couldn’t keep anything down for about twelve hours and we also had to work on that following Tuesday. Both Hubby and I felt very nauseous for a couple of days, but luckily didn’t get sick. We are so lucky that we hadn’t had a stomach bug in our house up until this point and I hope we don’t have another one for a very very very long time, no fun at all.
Besides the above incidences, we had a wonderful Christmas. The girls definitely are understanding the concept of Christmas, Santa, etc and it’s so fun and magical to see the Christmas season through their sweet, innocent eyes! All they asked for this year from Santa was a cupcake and a candy cane (although they didn’t even eat them because of not feeling well), so Santa had it pretty easy this year. They did get a Hatchimal, which was apparently one of the hot toys this year. It’s pretty cute and Zoe has really taken to it as her pet. The girls enjoyed spending time with their Uncles and one Aunt who came to town and we did some fun holiday things around town and at home.
Davis enjoyed his first Christmas-meeting new family members and getting lots of cuddles and time being held.
For New Year’s Eve we had some close friends and their kids over and celebrated a New York New Year’s Eve, champagne and sparkling cider toasts at 9 PM and then everyone straight to bed! Oh-how the times have changed!
May 2017 bless you with much happiness, health, and joy! We thank God every day for all of our many blessings. Every day in our house is chaotic and crazy, but we wouldn’t trade it for the world-we have three miracle babies and love them so much! I often have to stop myself in all the craziness to realize how lucky I truly am.
I’m managing to get this post written before Davis turns three months, go me! Haha! Davis is just the sweetest boy and I’m so in love with him. When we found out we were pregnant with baby #3, I was sure that it was going to be another girl and that I would be a Mom to three girls, but I’m so happy that we have a boy. He is so mellow and go with the flow. He only fusses when he’s hungry and is quite predictable. He is starting to give us lots of coos and smiles and it just melts our hearts to get these interactions from him.
Davis is starting to sleep better and is getting into more of a pattern. He has his witching time in the evening, usually around 7 to 9 PM, which makes it a little challenging since that is when we are trying to get the girls to bed. I nurse him in our bed and then we transfer him to his Rock n’ Play around 10 PM. He will usually sleep until 2 AM, at that time, I get up and pump and Hubby bottle feeds him. He usually goes right back to sleep and sleeps until 5:30 AM or so (if I have a late start at work I’ll nurse him before leaving). He’s had nights with longer stretches and some with shorter stretches, but overall, he’s getting into a more predictable pattern.
Davis had his two month check-up a couple of weeks ago. He also had his vaccines and was a champ, barely any tears and he actually did a seven hour stretch of sleep that night, his longest stretch ever.
Two month stats:
Weight: 13 pounds 2 ounces (68th percentile)
Length/Height: 23 inches (47th percentile)
Head circumference: 15.94 inches (85th percentile)-Big head like Mommy and big sister Jemma
Davis takes about 3.5 ounces every three hours. I’m pumping at work (every three hours) and both nursing and pumping in the evenings and weekends. I usually pump between five and seven times a day. Davis is getting breast milk exclusively and I have some stockpiled in the freezer. Granted there is only one baby to feed this time, but it’s nice to give him all breast milk and to be building a surplus. With the twins, I don’t think I was making enough for even one of them, and I really didn’t have any milk to spare. I pumped for close to eight months with the girls, I would love to go at least that long with Davis and with the frozen supply, hopefully he’ll be able to have breast milk beyond that. I’m taking 12 capsules of fenugreek a day and also drinking Upspring Baby Milk Flow drink. I think both supplements are helping.
Davis only has a BM about once every 3-4 days and it’s very watery and yellow. The doctor said this is very normal for babies who are only taking in breast milk. His occasional BMs tend to be blowouts if we don’t catch them early, but since it’s only 1-2 times per week, it’s not too difficult to deal with.
Davis enjoyed his first Christmas, surrounded by lots of family and meeting one of his Uncles for the first time. Christmas was kind of crazy for us, I’ll be posting all about it soon.
Hope all of you had a wonderful holiday and Happy New Year!
I’m managing to get this post written one day before D turns two months old. I’ve been thinking of writing this post and then between a newborn, two toddlers, and work, I haven’t managed to find the time to sit down and write. Hopefully I’ll get his two month update done before he turns three months.
Davis is such a sweet and mellow baby, he really has to go with the flow since his sisters are energetic, lively, crazy and wild at times. I keep thinking he will soon be deaf from all of the high pitch screaming and yelling.
At his two week check he was only 7 pounds 3 ounces, still 6 ounces under his birth weight. Since that appointment I met with a lactation group and determined that he wasn’t transferring well. Since then I amped up my pumping (now pumping 6-7 times a day) and we are following most nursing sessions with a bottle of pumped breast milk. We had to supplement for a little while with formula, but as of recently, my supply has really gone up and we aren’t having to supplement with formula.
At one month, Davis was up to 9 pounds 14 ounces. I’ll update more in my “two month” post, but let’s say, he is a growing and healthy boy!
We had a wonderful Thanksgiving up at my in-laws house, my mother-in-law told me I didn’t need to bring anything since things were so busy at home. It was nice to not have to worry about bringing something for dinner, but I felt weird showing up empty handed. My husband’s three brothers were home from out of town along with their wives. It was nice to be with all of our family.
The day after Thanksgiving the weather here in Seattle was crisp and clear and we were all able to enjoy the Wild Lights at the Woodland Park Zoo. The girls loved it!
At one month, Davis was doing about three hour stretches between feedings and taking around 3 ounces per feeding. Hubby is so helpful, he bottle feeds him at night while I pump simultaneously. We are both tired, but are surviving with our lack of sleep. Being at work feels like a bit of a vacation compared to being at home with all of the littles, but I do miss them all during the day.
I’ll post next time about the upcoming holidays and Davis’ two month update!
I’m sure everyone is reading my title and thinking this is a political post. As much as I could talk about politics, I’m referring to the struggles and triumphs in our home. This has been a tough week for me. Everything was going swimmingly with nursing….or so I thought, until this week. I realized early on that Davis was “lazy” at the boob and liked to nibble and hang out at my breast and not actively suck and swallow, but it wasn’t until his two week check up that I thought it was a concern. At his two week appointment last Friday, he was weighing at 7 pounds 3 ounces, still 6 ounces less than his birth weight. Our pediatrician said he should be at least back to his birth weight by two weeks. I nursed him all weekend and finally went to a lactation group the following Monday, at the group his pre-feeding weight was 7 pounds 8.7 ounces and after nursing him he took in a little over two ounces, I was feeling pretty good and felt like things were going in the right direction.
Monday morning I had a follow-up weight check with the pediatrician’s office. He was back to 7 pounds 9 ounces. The nurse I met with said to nurse him for 10 minutes on a side since he tends to fall asleep and follow with pumping to get my milk supply up. Monday night however was when things went south. During the night, when I normally feel really full in my breasts and Davis is usually a vigorous nurser, on Monday neither was happening and I was feeling devastated. He was really fussy as I wasn’t having let downs and he clearly wasn’t getting enough milk. He will usually go for a four hour stretch between feedings at night, but was waking every 1-2 hours since he wasn’t getting much milk.
Yesterday was the toughest day I’ve had since his birth, I was feeling extremely anxious and panicked that my milk has dropped significantly and that he no longer wants to nurse. I cried when Hubby got home because I felt like things were going so well and now everything took a nose dive and I am still confused how my supply and his nursing changed in what seemed less than 48 hours. Hubby is always the voice of reason and said that I’m doing the best that I can and that I need to take it easy, drink lots of water and pump and not worry about everything so much.
Today I was sad for obvious reasons, but I felt better about breastfeeding. I’m still attempting to nurse Davis (even if it’s only 10 minutes), but I’m following each nursing session with pumping and giving him a bottle. I don’t know if my supply will keep up with his demand, but like with our twins, if I can give him even some breast milk I will be happy. I went through this same situation with the girls and I got through it and they are happy and healthy. They aren’t any worse off with being given formula and there is no sense in having anxiety and panic over the situation. I’m going to go back to the lactation group tomorrow and will follow up with a one-on-one appointment next Tuesday with a lactation consultant, just to see what the issue is, but I’m not going to let it devastate me any longer. However, has anyone had a similar situation? Where your milk supply suddenly plummets?
As far as triumphs go….Jemma and Zoe have had a language explosion. They are talking in sentences, using phrases such as “I want….”, “Help me….” and it’s just amazing how much they say and pick up on. They don’t miss a thing and it just amazes me that these small two year old girls know as much as they do. They are also starting to do lots of imaginary play which is so fun. They like to ride on a “bus” that Daddy makes out of our sofa cushions and they pretend to go to the beach, Daniel Tiger’s house, Pete the Cat’s house, and they often have to stop to use their tools to fix the broken bus.
They also have been so wonderful with the new addition to the family. They have expressed any jealously and are so sweet to him. They always want to give him kisses and cuddle “baby brother” and never question how much time I’m having to dedicate to him. Even when I go upstairs to pump, they haven’t whined or cried about it and just say “bye bye Mommy” when I go upstairs. I’ve been pleasantly surprised by their maturity of adding another sibling to the family. I think it helps that they have each other, even though they fight with each other. Typical sisters-not wanting to share their toys, pulling hair, pulling clothes, wanting a certain colored plate, etc.
The girls went trick or treating for the first time this year and had so much fun. They were reluctant to put their costumes on at first, but Hubby bribed them with a piece of candy and after they hit their first house and realized what trick or treating was all about they were ready to hit house after house.
Hope everyone is doing okay, I know it’s been a tough day for many. I want my children to grow up in a world of kindness, love, and acceptance. I hope that the future will show us that these virtues still exist.
We welcomed Davis Z. into the world at 12:51 PM on Friday October 21, 2016 via a scheduled repeat C-section. He came into the world crying loudly weighing 7 pounds 9 ounces, 20.5 inches long and with a 14 inch head.
I was hoping all last week that I would go into labor and hoping that I would be able to have a successful and smooth VBAC delivery. However, baby D had another plan and stayed cozy until his scheduled delivery date. I ended up seeing exams all week at work and didn’t even have many contractions throughout the week. On Friday morning, we woke up as usual, got ready (Mama did her hair and make-up), got the girls up and gave them breakfast as usual. My Mom has been here with us since the sixteenth of the month in preparation of baby’s arrival and was home with the girls when we left for the hospital to be there for a 10:30 AM check-in.
My dear friend, who is a labor and delivery nurse and had been there for the twins delivery requested to work so that she could be our nurse again (even though she works at a different branch of our hospital now). I couldn’t have imagined our day without her, she made sure we had an awesome anesthesiologist, had a comfortable room and just made us feel comfortable on a day we were both anxious about. We were super excited to meet our baby boy, but had some anxiety over the whole process with all of the complications we had last time.
She helped us with all of our paperwork, got my IV going and by a little before 12:30 PM we were walking down the hall into the OR. My OB was present (different doctor than who delivered J & Z), but the assisting OB was the same as our delivery before, 2 nurses, the anesthesiologist and Hubby. I received my spinal and was laid down and everything was prepared. Like I said above, Davis came screaming into the world by 12:51 PM. My OB used the same incision site and said it was a little tight for Davis’ larger head!
God is so good!!! I had been hoping to go into labor all week, but by the grace of God did not and thank goodness. Davis had a knot in his umbilical cord and had I gone into labor and tried for a VBAC, I would have ended up having an emergency C-section, which could have been a much more complicated and serious situation. Also, the OB said that had the knot been any tighter, there is a chance we could have had a stillbirth. The thought of that is devastating and I couldn’t even imagine that type of loss. We are so thankful and blessed that everything happened as it did. This time around everything went just as planned and was routine and straight forward. A C-section is still a major surgery with a slower recovery, but our experience at the hospital was worlds better than last time. We were moved into postpartum by 3:30 PM and stayed two nights before being discharged. We had the most wonderful postpartum nurses who took excellent care of myself and baby. One nurse in particular helped so much with nursing the baby and had such a wonderful spirit and demeanor.
On Friday evening, my in laws and Mom came to the hospital with our girls so they could meet their baby brother for the first time. Jemma was very apprehensive about the meeting and kept her distance while Zoe was very excited and animated. We made sure Davis had brought them a present-two Daniel Tiger books and Daniel Tiger figurines (their absolute favorite show!).
We checked out late afternoon on Sunday and have been home getting settled since then. My Dad was here since the day of the birth and just went home today. He cooked us some delicious meals and helped my Mom take care of the girls while we were away. My milk came in yesterday and luckily I’ve been able to nurse Davis exclusively so far and have only pumped to help with engorgement and to have a breast milk supply for when I go back to work in five weeks. I had a very difficult time nursing the twins and pretty much had to pump exclusively, so I’m happy to have breastfeeding going so much smoother this time. I hope he’ll continue to nurse well.
Davis had his first wellness check at the pediatric office today.
Weight: 6 lbs 15 ounces (down still from his birthweight)-27th percentile
Length: 20.5 inches (same as birth length)-78th percentile
Head circumference : 35.4 cm-66th percentile
The doctor hopes his weight will increase now that my milk is coming in and that we’ll see an increase in BM and wet diapers. He said that baby is slightly jaundice (he passed the screening at the hospital) but that we can observe for now.
We are so thankful for all of our family and friends who were thinking and praying for us on our special day. And for all of the generous gifts for Davis, gifts for the girls, meals, etc. We are already so in love with our baby boy and feel so happy and blessed to have three healthy children who are truly miracles!
Thirty nine weeks and three days…..I think this little man is holding out until my scheduled C-section to come into the world. I’m at work right now, I’m not seeing any patients this week but I’m here doing exams for my hygienists since I’m still pregnant and waiting for baby. Yesterday I had the chance to work on his baby book, get some grocery shopping done and get to the gym. I’m trying to stay active, hoping I’ll put myself in labor and just to stay active overall to help with an easier recovery should I have the C-section.
Last weekend I went to my bestie’s house to watch Justin Timberlake and Chill on Netflix hoping to put myself into labor! Many of us who went over had see his 20/20 concert when he was here in Seattle in 2014 (I was newly pregnant with J & Z) and this was his last concert at the MGM Grand in Vegas after touring for two years! He’s such an amazing performer and easy on the eyes!
We also made it to my assistant’s wedding last Saturday. It was a beautiful wedding and I’m so happy for her. They were predicting a huge storm in the Seattle area, but it didn’t end up being a big storm at all, I was glad the weather held out for them. I did my fair share of dancing on the dance floor, but still didn’t get things moving.
I’m so glad this pregnancy has been so easy and I pray that my delivery will be much easier and smoother than last time as well. I’m getting very anxious about my delivery since I nearly died last time and I have huge fears of any complications. My OB reassures me that all of what happened last time is very unlikely but it’s still scary.
Hubby and I are so excited to meet our son, I do get a little nervous thinking about how crazy our life is going to be like with three children, two toddlers and a newborn! The girls have not been napping and have been having lots of tantrums and meltdowns. Ever since we moved them into their new room, naps have been hit and miss. I’m not ready to let go of naps yet, everyone is going to need the break once the baby comes. I think separate rooms would help, but unfortunately, we don’t have that option. My MIL suggests a large divider for the room. Any suggestions to help us get our twins back on track with naps??
Name is still undecided, I suggested that we could wait until we see the little guy, but Hubby thinks we should have it picked out before we arrive at the hospital! We’ll see….
Until I write again…….just waiting!
Thirty eight and a half to be more precise! I’m at work right now, my schedule has lightened up a bit and this is the last week that I’m seeing patients. However, I don’t think baby boy is planning on making an early appearance yet. As of my last appointment, my cervix is fully closed and I’m not having many contractions.
I signed off on my C-section paperwork last Thursday, my OB and I are still hoping for a VBAC if I go into labor before next Friday, but like I said, I’m not too hopeful about going into labor. She went over the risks such as an emergency C-section or uterine rupture (both of which I am terrified of given my last delivery) and we agreed that if things are not progressing with a VBAC that we’ll shift gears to a C-section sooner than later.
My assistant is getting married this coming Saturday, so I would love to make it to her wedding and then baby can come anytime after that. I would love his birthday to fall on Sunday, 10.16.16 (but again, wishful thinking!)
Our cat is now on Prozac, he hasn’t had any “accidents” since he started it, but has been quite lethargic. The vet said that it is normal for our cat to be lethargic and lazy as he acclimates to the medication, but I hope he gets a little pep back.
I’m very excited for the arrival of our son, but getting a bit emotional about how our family will be changing. The girls have been my “babies” for over two years, I love them so much and can’t imagine sharing my love with another human (even though I know I will). I know they will be wonderful big sisters, but I worry about their envy or possible jealously over the new baby and I don’t want them to feel like I have less time for them. I keep telling them that Daddy will be helping them more when baby comes since I’ll be busy with their baby brother. I’ve seen pictures on social media of Moms giving their older children hugs as they leave them for their delivery and it brings up so many emotions for me.
Today is a beautiful sunny fall day here in Seattle, a storm is on the horizon tonight that is suppose to last through the weekend. I’ll be seeing my OB again on Friday…..I’ll keep you all posted!
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